Executive Functioning

Day 21 of a 30-day series originally published for Facebook April 2021

Executive functions are a set of mental skills that include; flexible thinking, planning & prioritizing, emotional control, impulse control, working memory, time management, and organization.

Troubles with executive functioning can look like; having trouble getting started on a project, focusing on small details when a larger more urgent matter needs attending, having trouble with directions, getting flustered when routines change, always running late, losing personal items, becoming easily frustrated, forgetting something you just heard, fixating on an idea or task and forgetting about other things.

Sounds like ADHD you say? You would be correct! ADHD IS a problem with executive functioning. But executive functioning issues aren't just founding those with ADHD, they are very, VERY common in autistic individuals. Up to 80% of autistics have major executive functioning deficits, and most if not all autistics have at least some degree of executive functioning difficulty. So, that means in our house, we have the pleasure of working on executive functioning skills with not just one but TWO of our three kids...so far, ha! If you come over in the morning, both the boys may be naked and unable to find their clothing, but they will both absolutely know where they hid that special rock from 6 days ago and have built an elaborate display of recycled boxes by 7 am.

To help both our boys stay on track, we use visual schedules and calendars. We give only one-step directions, sometimes two, and have them repeat back what it is they are supposed to do. We do most chores in teams because it's easier to keep them on track if there are two. We NEVER cut off an activity without notice, we always give a warning and most of the time include a visual timer as well. They both have a folder system for school work... these are all things that can help any kid, but for someone who is autistic or even ADHD, they are necessary if there is any chance of the day going smoothly.

Executive functioning deficits can be improved over time, but most adult autistics and even those with ADHD will tell you they scaffold their life with habits and "tricks" they have learned work for them. It's not so much about eliminating difficulties but learning the tools needed to mitigate them.